10.31.2017

Keep Silent

Keep silent, no really, He means what He says. Don't try to analyze it over. It means just what it says.


When God is speaking, I listen. When He's teaching me, I yield to the Holy Spirit. I'm not immune to correction. I'm a sheep that needs a good poke or prod every now and again, especially if I'm traveling with my Lord through unfamiliar territory or rough terrain. I know I can trust Him because like a good Shepherd, He cares for my safety, well-being, and success in reaching my destination.

Look for an upcoming post Broken that is a chapter from my struggles book. No, I'm not releasing the title. It needs a little tweaking and perhaps one or two more stories, but I'm in no rush. It's all in His hands. My testimony is not about me or my message. It's about the Lord and His Gospel as a whole -- Genesis to Revelation -- and how it changed my life, and continues to. I'm in awe that He chose to use a regenerated spirit of an unlikely woman like me to do His bidding. But that's like Him, "to use the foolish things." (1 Corinthians 1:27) Nothing more. Nothing less.

Jesus has done so much for me and through me, and yet, I still lean on Him daily for strength and resolution through His Word when my reality is screaming different. For some months now the Lord is guiding me gently on keeping silent in regards to my marriage, particularly with my husband. It's not easy for me. At all. But I noticed it's easier if I have something to gain, but if it's just to be silent, that's hard work and takes an exercise in humbling myself before God, not my husband. Because obedience is better than sacrifice! (1 Samuel 15:22)



Here's motivational Truth in God's Word and practical insight from the Lord's well to help us keep silent when our spouse is making mistakes or about to fall.

When God is teaching me, my eyes are opened and my ears attentive to the Lord.


  • Wives, keep silent instead of being persistent regarding that topic he's not willing to talk about or deal with. Instead, take it to the Lord in prayer.
  • While we are striving in our strength to figure it out, the Lord has already worked it out. Be obedient because our miracle is just up ahead, and He'll get all the glory!
  • When your spouse falls or makes mistakes, you'll be there. Don't try to warn or even give advice. They need this lesson, and it will turn out good for you as well. (Romans 8:28) Be obedient to the Holy Spirit and trust the process.
  • Let the Holy Spirit work in you, through you, and for you.
  • Obedience is not perfection it's a matter of the heart. Striving to be less than we are, so that He may increase significantly in us. And we are motivated by His love and goodness towards us.
  • Be persistent in your prayer life instead of being persistent with details and plans with your husband. Let the Holy Spirit lead you both out into the Promised Land.

He must become greater; I must become less. John 3:30 NIV

He must increase [in prominence], but I must decrease. John 3:30 AMP

He must increase, but I must decrease. John 3:30 NKJV

And the contentions of a wife are a continual dripping. Proverbs 19:13b

Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman. Proverbs 21:9

Better to dwell in the wilderness, Than with a contentious and angry woman. Proverbs 21:19

It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman. Proverbs 25:24

A continual dripping on a very rainy day And a contentious woman are alike. Proverbs 27:15

Life Application Study Bible: Proverbs 27:15, 16 Quarrelsome nagging, a steady stream of unwanted advice, is a form of torture. People nag because they think they’re not getting through, but nagging hinders communication more than it helps. When tempted to engage in this destructive habit, stop and examine your motives. Are you more concerned about yourself -getting your way, being right – than about the person you are pretending to help? If you are truly concerned about the other people, think of a more effective way to get through to them. Surprise them with words of patience and love, and see what happens.

Contention: heated disagreement Synonyms: disagreement, dispute, disputation, argument, discord, conflict, friction, strife, dissension, disharmony

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones. Proverbs 12:4

The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands. Proverbs 14:1

For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God; but woman is the glory of man. 1 Corinthians 11:7

Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Genesis 1:26,27

This is the book of the genealogy of Adam. In the day that God created man, He made him in the likeness of God. Genesis 5:1

But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. James 3:8,9

Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring send forth fresh water and bitter from the same opening? Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Thus no spring yields both salt water and fresh. James 3:10-12

Life Application Study Bible: James 3:8 If no human being can tame or control the tongue, why bother trying? Even if we may not achieve perfect control of our tongues, we can still learn enough control to reduce the damage our words can do. It is better to fight a fire than to go around setting new ones! Remember that we are not fighting the tongue’s fire in our own strength. The Holy Spirit will give us increasing power to monitor and control what we say, so that when we are offended, the Spirit will remind us of God’s love, and we won’t react in a hateful manner. When we are criticized, the Spirit will heal the hurt, and we won’t lash out.

Life Application Study Bible: James 3:9-12 Our contradictory speech often puzzles us. At times our words are right and pleasing to God, but other times they are violent and destructive. Which of these speech pattern reflects our true identity? The tongue gives us a picture of our basic human nature. We were made in God’s image, but we have also fallen into sin. God works to change us from the inside out. When the Holy Spirit purifies a heart, he gives self-control so that the person will speak words that please God.
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